As confident as we all might feel, there is nothing more nerve-wracking than a first date. However, just because your stomach is flying around in a million directions doesn’t mean that your body language and face need to show it.
If you have just made plans for a first date and need some help to prepare, this is the article for you!
The First Step Is to Prepare Your Mind
Start by creating a list of topics that you feel comfortable talking about. Sit down and consider safe first date topics which avoid subjects such as politics and religion. Stick with your hobbies, interests, and anything else that you feel is important and appropriate.
When you have your list, commit it to memory – don’t print it out and take it along with you. If you can’t remember them all, prioritize your subjects and work your way down.
The purpose of this technique is to keep the conversation flowing. Many dates fail simply because of stalled conversation, not because of a lack of shared interests.
Next, It’s Time to Prepare Your Body
While many people will read this title, and think that they need to hit the gym a couple of hours before their date or buy a new outfit solely for the occasion, this tip comes in the form of relaxation.
As you are preparing for your date, take some time to center yourself and bring yourself to a state of relaxation. This can be done through activities such as yoga, meditation, or even tai chi. The aim of this exercise isn’t to get your body looking its best, but to relax it so that you don’t sit at the dinner table jittering your knee because you didn’t release pent up excitement (or nerves!)
While you don’t want to enter a date thinking that it isn’t going to work and planning your exit strategy (although, an exit strategy isn’t a bad idea), remember that everybody is not meant for everybody. Put simply, be prepared for the date to not work out, and remember that another first date is as easy as a visit to the Groupon Coupons store for Match.com.
If, while on your first date, you realize that the other person isn’t for you, don’t stop the date entirely and leave to go home. Instead, see it as an opportunity to get to know somebody who could turn out to be a great friend or companion. In essence, don’t limit your date to a future relationship, but more to a future partner of many descriptions.
As helpful as these tips will be, there are always going to be times where you just can’t handle the excitement and you end up blurting out your entire life story before you’ve even had a chance to order your first drink. If this happens, the best course of action is to just laugh about it and admit to your nerves – after all, being nervous to meet somebody is actually a great compliment to them!